A few weeks ago, my 7 year old daughter received a water bottle from her grandfather. It was exactly the kind of thing a little girl would love, covered in glitter and with Disney princesses, and complete with a built-in straw. She was thrilled and wanted to use it right away.
But when it came to taking it to school, she hesitated. She asked me if she should bring it, not because she didn’t like it, but because she was worried her classmates would think it was “too childish.”
I was caught off guard. She’s in first grade. A child. When did seven years old become too old for Disney princesses and glitter?
It broke my heart a little to see her wrestle with this decision. She genuinely loved the bottle, but in her mind, what others thought of it, and by extension, her-suddenly mattered.
I did my best to explain that if she liked it, that was all that should count. I told her that what makes her happy is more important than what anyone else might say. That confidence in being yourself is a superpower, and that no one gets to decide what’s “too childish” for her.
After our talk, she decided to take it to school. That afternoon, she came home beaming. Not only did no one make fun of her, but the girls in her class actually liked her bottle. Since then, she’s carried it with her every day, including on her school trip today.
I was relieved, of course, but also unsettled. Because this time, the story had a happy ending. But what about next time? What about the times when the reaction isn’t positive?
I keep wondering: When did childhood start coming with an expiration date?
Why is it that, even at seven years old, kids are already measuring themselves against some unspoken standard of what’s “cool” and what’s “babyish”? And how do we, as parents, help them hold on to what they love without feeling like they have to dim their spark to fit in?
I don’t have all the answers, but I know this: I want my daughter to be able to love what she loves, unapologetically. Whether it’s princesses and glitter today or something else tomorrow, I want her to feel confident enough to choose for herself, not based on fear of judgment.
So, I remind her, again and again, that being herself is enough. That liking something isn’t embarrassing. That growing up doesn’t mean giving up joy.
Because honestly? The world could use a little more sparkle. And I hope she never stops carrying hers proudly.